Toddler tantrums are a natural part of a child’s development. They often occur when children are frustrated, tired, or hungry. Toddlers can also have tantrums because they’re not sure how to express their feelings in words yet.
How to handle tantrums
The tantrum won’t last forever. If you can keep your cool and give the child a chance to calm down, he or she will eventually return to his/her usual self, ready to interact with the world properly once again.
When the child is in the midst of a full-on tantrum, it’s only natural for parents to feel frustrated and annoyed by their kid’s behavior. But don’t let these feelings get in the way of handling your child appropriately! If you can stay calm yourself, then you’ll be able to help your toddler find a way out of their rage as well.
Here are some tips that might help:
- Don’t argue with them—just explain why they need to do what they need to do (e.g., “We have things we need at home too!”)
- Don’t give in—this could make everything worse later on because now the child knows how far he or she can push it before getting what he or she wants (and trust me when I say this will happen).
- Let them know how upset/disappointed/mildly peeved off as an adult who has witnessed first-hand how much work goes into taking care of kids; however also let them know that there were many happy times along with all those hard ones too!
Let your child know she can’t win a fight with you.
Let your child know she can’t win a fight with you.
In order to stop toddler tantrums, it’s important to let your child know that you’re not going to change your mind about what you are saying. When parents discipline their children’s behavior too harshly and use threats or force, they are more likely to argue with their kids during the discipline process and less likely to be effective in getting their message across.
When you feel like losing control of the situation, stop yourself from being mean or losing compassion for your child by telling yourself that he really does want it now but will forget all about it when he gets something else later on. If necessary, take a time-out (just step away) until both of you have calmed down before trying again—but don’t delay if this doesn’t work!
Parents who discipline their children’s behavior too harshly are more like to argue.
The study, which was published in the journal Child Development, found that parents who discipline their children’s behavior too harshly are more likely to argue with them. Parents who were more relaxed and used a parenting style that is authoritarian or permissive were less likely to argue with their children.
According to lead researcher Dr Lisa Strohschein: “Discipline strategies may influence how parents feel about their relationships with their kids, as well as how they see themselves as parents.”
When upset, cuddle, praise, and offer to help.
You can help your child handle difficult situations by praising him or her and offering to help. For example, if she’s upset because he or she wants another cookie, you could say something like this: “You wanted another cookie but I said no because it was time for bed. You feel sad that I won’t let you have one right now, and that makes me feel sad too. Let’s snuggle up on the couch together until we both get better feelings! We can read a book or sing songs together until then!”
Don’t yell back at the child.
The first thing you should know is that yelling back at your child will not help them learn how to behave. It can be tempting, especially when you’re in the middle of a tantrum, but yelling back will only escalate the situation further.
In addition, yelling is likely to make both you and your toddler feel worse. Yelling is an adult response that children are not developmentally ready for—they don’t understand why it’s happening or how they’ve made their parents angry enough to yell at them. This makes them more upset and causes even more tension between all parties involved.
Be calm and patient.
When you’re dealing with a toddler tantrum, your child will have lots of emotions. Sometimes, they’re feeling frustrated and overwhelmed by their own emotions—the transition from being an infant to being a toddler can be overwhelming for them. In those moments, it’s important that you remain calm and patient, even if the behavior is difficult for you to handle.
The best way to help your child through these difficult situations is consistency: always follow through with what you say and don’t give in or give up on any rules or boundaries just because your toddler throws a tantrum over them. This gives them the security they need while also teaching them how to behave appropriately in different situations (and making things easier on you!).
Once they learn this lesson, there are plenty more opportunities for kids’ tantrums as they become older—so don’t let small ones get away with anything!
Use time-outs for short interventions.
Time-outs are a great tool to help you regain control. They can be used for any situation, but they’re especially helpful in situations where your child is refusing to listen or follow directions. You may also use time-outs when your child is being aggressive towards others or themselves. Time-outs are not punishments; they are short interventions that help you regain control of yourself and/or the situation so that you can then communicate with your toddler about what went wrong and how to fix it next time.
Time-outs should never be used as punishment because children don’t understand why they’re being punished (because “they didn’t do anything”). Instead, think about using time-out as a way for you and/or others involved in the situation to gain back control over themselves so that everyone involved feels calm enough again to have an honest discussion about what happened and figure out how things will be handled differently next time around!
Educate yourself on how tantrums work; they’re not personal attacks.
There is a great deal of misunderstanding about tantrums and the reasons why they happen. Tantrums are not personal attacks on you, they’re not because your child is “bad” or “out of control,” and they aren’t just a phase that will go away (unless you want it to). Tantrums are an attempt to get what your toddler wants by acting out in a negative way. They may be trying to get attention from their parents, but when we give them our full attention and talk through what’s going on with them, then we help them learn how to handle situations differently in the future.
When you think you’re losing control, stop yourself from being mean or losing compassion.
Don’t yell or threaten your child. Yelling doesn’t help with tantrums, and it will only make your child more upset. Instead of yelling at your child to stop their tantrum, try giving them time and space to calm down. If they’re safe, let them spend some time alone in a safe place like their room so they can regain control of themselves and feel better about themselves again.
You don’t have to give up on yourself just because you can’t handle the tantruming toddler anymore! You’re a good parent—I know that from experience—and this latest blow-up won’t change that fact. You might even start feeling better about yourself after reading this article because now there’s concrete evidence that you’re not alone in this struggle!
There are things you can do to let your child know he/she can’t get away with treating you badly
- Be calm and patient.
- Use time-outs for short interventions.
- Educate yourself on how tantrums work; they’re not personal attacks.
- When you think you’re losing control, stop yourself from being mean or losing compassion
Tantrums are frustrating and can make you feel like a failure as a parent. Don’t let them! You’re doing great, and the more you know about your child’s behavior and how to handle it, the easier it will be for both of you.
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